I’m a grandma to a three-year-old. Although he lives far away, we try to visit as much as we can. Most recently he spent about 10 days with us, and it was great fun. We got to grandparent since we don’t often have the opportunity. That means buying clothes, bedding, toys, and every snack imaginable (who knew there were so many).
I expected it would be busy after-all he is a non-stop type of kid. What I didn’t predict was the extreme exhaustion and the soreness, which comes with being on your legs, standing, running, jumping, and lifting, most of each day. This proved what I really knew deep down. I am out of shape.
I recall my children’s grandparents being the primary care for preschool and afterschool activities, including driving to and from lessons when the need arose. Although they lived locally and therefore the kids could be sent home at the end of the day, (thankfully often with dinner for the family in tow) it didn’t appear that they were as tired as I feel.
I feel exhausted (both mentally and physically) and achy from all the activity. To add insult, I find it extremely annoying that my smart watch suggested I didn’t do enough and that perhaps I should be putting in a bit more effort the next day.
And as simple an explanation it is, it took some time for me to figure out that I am at least ten years older than our parents were when their grandkids were young.
I’ve polled my contemporaries, and they are equally tired by the end of each day and, in fact, for those who are lucky enough to have grandchildren close to home, have decided to take care of their grand little ones no more than two days a week. I would do the same. It’s not because I don’t love their little hand and footprints all through the house, but because my out of shape, older body and mind just can’t take it.
Let’s face it, at 65 most days I need a nap. I may not be working any more, but the days are usually filled with errands, volunteering, friends, and exercise. (okay well at least I try) This is nowhere near the physical sustenance needed when enjoying a toddler and their newfound abilities.
So, I figure I need a post toddler visit action plan to be better prepared the next time around. First, I need to get in better shape so that means I need to get back in the pool. Second, I need to investigate child friendly activities including some type of play group so he can have some friends to interact with and finally, I need to teach my not so smart watch that taking care of a toddler is more than enough activity for me to earn full rings. (for smart watch owners you know what I mean)
Have a wonderful, and active, fall everyone.
